"But what about your wife," I asked.  "What would she say?"

"No, Mama Alice," he replied.  "She would say the same thing, I'm certain.  Our marriage really is good."

And that was what I wanted to hear.  I have earned the right to cross examine this dear pastor at random intervals.  He can to Shiloh at the point of a nervous breakdown.  Spent a month with us.  He and I began meeting daily, going over many areas of his life.  And then it tumbled out.  His marriage was in the pits.  In fact, his wife was feed up with him.  Didn't want to be married any more.  So we rolled up our sleeves and went to work.  Eventually we brought his wife in and began counseling her as well.  In time he began to see many things he had been doing wrong, all in ignorance.  She too had areas that needed to be addressed.  They were willing to put in the effort to turn their marriage around.

And turn around it did.  That was several years ago.  They are solidly committed to their marriage and have become a roll model for others.  But I needed to do a check up.  Needed to ask the blunt questions.  He needs to understand that there is accountability here, even years later.  They call it tough love.  That's what we are all about here at Shiloh.